Is your relationship in crisis?
Don't know where to turn or how to save it?
Same old arguments over and over again.
You love each other but things just aren't the same anymore.
You're at breaking point - something needs to change...
Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay?
I believe that all relationships go through difficult periods at times and for a relationship to survive it needs work, commitment, communication and understanding. Above all, it involves risk. The risk to be honest with each other and with yourself. (This is not easy!)
Ultimately, by understanding each other better and talking (asking?) about what you want/need from each other, the physical and emotional relationship can begin to improve.
Secrecy and lies, difficulty trusting?
An open and honest dialogue is required - put all your cards on the table and let's talk about what's really going on. What's beneath the anger and blame? What needs to be said that you've been holding back from each other? What do you fear will happen if you actually say what you feel? I will support you to to .work through these blindspots and resistance as you begin to confront the painful feelings.
"Can we change? What needs to happen for us to work?" What if we can't change?
I will support you in exploring the meaning of ending, versus staying, and help you to navigate the painful next steps if you decide to end the relationship.
My approach is to help you to identify the way you communicate with each other and to recognise the familiar rut you get stuck in. This requires openness and honesty from you and in return I offer my honest observations of you and how I experience your relationship dynamics.
To grow and change, we need to be aware of our blindspots. "What we resist, persists..."
We see the faults in others that lay hidden within ourselves...
